Tragic Events
From New Age Village
Channeled for New Age Village by John Payne
Tragic events such as the violence at Columbine, and the recent incident at a school just outside San Diego, seem to point to an ever-escalating string of senseless violence among the youth of today, not only in the USA, but also in other countries. Why is this manifesting in society with greater frequency, and what can be done on a physical or spiritual level to alleviate it?
OMNI: There are several factors that one can consider in this case, it is not just one thing, it is not television, or lack of discipline, that one may be tempted to blame, but it lies more within the structure of family and of the culture as a whole. So many are quick to blame teachers, to blame the media to blame parents for their lack of parental discipline, but these factors have little to do with such events.
Let us deal with one important aspect. Many of your youth today are older souls, souls that have had many lifetime experiences. In addition to this, they enter your world with a greater openness, a greater sensitivity to energy, and a greater connection to those things that are spiritual, or unseen, the non-physical world. As they enter this world, the norms and values that their parents and teachers place upon them feel very un-natural, and it feels to them as if they have been placed in a straight jacket. This does not mean that their natural tendency is run wild and to create havoc, in our observation, the opposite is true. They in fact re-act to, and indeed act out, the violence of the parents.
Your culture has been very much based on rules, rules concerning propriety, the expression of emotion, and the expression of sexuality and of all other forms of expression. In a culture where parents and older ones have learnt to suppress that which is natural, through adhering to the rules laid down by a religion, philosophy, political allegiance or cultural norms, then these feelings will be expressed by their offspring, or even a generation or two later.
Whenever a natural energy is suppressed, it will find a way to express itself, and this will almost always be in its distorted form. For example, a young man or boy wanting to express his natural aggression may do so through football, a martial art, or some other sport. If he is then burdened by the unexpressed natural aggression of his father and grandfather, the likelihood is that he will express his aggression in a more extreme way, ways in which are not acceptable to the culture as a whole. If all individuals would allow their natural energies to be expressed, such incidences would be minor or non-existent.
Children and parents are telepathically linked, this bond is very strong and is not to be underestimated, and this is also true for adopted children. The link between an adopted child and their natural parents is as strong as those who are living with their natural parents. With this telepathic link, the child feels all that the parents feel, and naturally takes on the beliefs and experiences of the parents as its own. This is a natural process and the soul chooses parents with particular patterns and beliefs just in the same way it chooses to be born at a certain time in order to create an astrological blueprint.
When a child sees that a parent wants to express something, but either can’t or won’t, it has the magical idea that by doing it for the parent, the problem will be solved. In essence, some acts of violence such as the ones you have referred to, can be acts of love “I will do it for you daddy”. The child is not aware of this, but simply has an inner urge to express something or to do something. This often leaves the parents totally bewildered, wondering what they have done wrong, often saying to themselves that they have given the children all that they needed and therefore do not understand what went wrong. We want to stress here, that no one is at fault; it is a matter of consciousness and awareness.
Therefore, what we are offering, is that the surest way for parents to heal such situations with an offspring, is to heal that part of themselves that is asking for attention. As parents deny, children will express that which is denied and will also be more likely to go on to deny when they move into adulthood.
This does not mean to say that the parents of young adults and children that perpetrate such violent acts are violent people who simply have held things in. The children who act in such ways are responding to all emotions that are withheld and suppressed. These emotions can be sadness, grief, annoyance, frustration, and all manner of things. If the parent does not find a way to deal with their inner conflicts, they will often be expressed as outer conflict with and through their children. For example, tension within the relationship of the parents and in the case of parents that are separated, the children will respond to any lack of respect given to one or other parent. Most of this takes place on the sub-conscious level. Another contributor to unrest amongst children is family secrets. A family secret weighs down heavily as a dense energy on any family. Often parents will withhold information from children often feeling that it is for their greater good. However, on closer inspection, the reason for withholding, or deliberately hiding knowledge from children, is motivated by feelings of shame. This can be devastating to children. Whether they are able to express it or not, they do sense the secret and this only engenders a lack of trust between parent and child, which in turn can lead to anger and an identity crises for the child.
One of the things that are very important for parents to watch out for is honesty. You live in a culture that values the truth and you educate your children not to lie, impressing upon them that it is undesirable and not fitting. If at the same time you are teaching your child the value of honesty and are keeping secrets you are creating conflict within the child, it is as simple as that.
When we refer to secrets, or information that is withheld, there are certain areas that are out of the bounds of a child’s life. For example, to share the intimate reasons as to why you and the child’s parent divorced is not appropriate. First of all, it brings the child forward in time into the realm of adulthood at too early an age, and secondly, the child may begin to sense a loyalty conflict. The marriage or relationship is of no concern to the child, therefore, we would always admonish you to speak in respectful terms about a child’s parent at all times, no matter how unhappy you were in the marriage. Whenever you dishonor the other parent, you shame the child, and in the long run, children will either be more loyal to, or simply imitate the parent that is least respected. So, if you tell your child how bad your former spouse and his or her other parent is, they may just well imitate the behavior of that one as an act of loyalty. Through imitation, the child gets to share the same experience, thereby giving the child the feeling that they are closer and more connected. It is important for separated parents to consciously think of the positive aspects of the departed partner and to share that with their children. For example, you may want to say “ Your father is very good with numbers and I see that you are too, you got that from your Dad” or “Your mother is very caring with animals, I see that you are too, you get that from your Mum”. In this way, you reinforce within the child that all parts of him/her are good and acceptable. It really is a question of you honoring the part of the other parent you see alive in the child. As we have said before, when you dishonor the parent, you shame the child. It is the responsibility of parents to put their own feelings aside; it is your job to be ‘bigger’, and to shield your child from your own personal feelings concerning your former partner.
As parents are honored, family secrets are dissolved and parents live by the same standards that they expect their children to live by, happy and peaceable children will emerge.
In essence, as with all things, if you have a question, the answer is always love. And so it is with this topic, for love is honest, love accepts, love does not hide, it does not dishonor, it is not jealous, it doesn’t scheme or hold grudges – love simply is.
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