Healing Frustrations
From New Age Village
Channeled by Shepherd Hoodwin (during a live telechat on 1/13/2008)
We regard each of you as healers. What heals, ultimately, is consciousness. Each of you present has chosen to operate in a more healing consciousness. As this online group comes together as one you will likely feel at first an increase in discomfort. This is not unlike what we or any healer experiences when beginning to work on a difficult case. As a healer you are vulnerable - you must be to heal - as you expose yourself to less evolved energies. The way to handle this is to focus strongly your attention on the qualities that you wish to bring in to this less evolved energy.
A less practiced healer can sometimes be overwhelmed by this lower quality energy. There you were, feeling just fine and suddenly you feel hit by something. Keep your focus on what has felt good. The three basic universal forces have been called “love” which aligns more with inspiration, “truth” which aligns with intellect, and ‘beauty’ which aligns with energy or manifestation.
If you are ever in a situation where you have been hit by something unpleasant, negative, destructive, ugly, you might want to get into the habit of calling on these qualities. Let’s say that out of the blue somebody attacks you, says something nasty, unfair, uncalled for. . . From a compassionate perspective you may intellectually understand that the person is dealing with some difficult things that may not be all that much about you personally. Sometimes a person has just built up a lot of frustration and is letting off steam, and you are there so you have it dumped on you. What most people do is engage, because it triggers your own frustrations. Many actually see this as a good opportunity to dump; he or she is dumping on me, I will dump on him or her – sort of like mud wrestling - get all down and dirty and we will both let off some steam even if we are muddied and bloodied afterwards.
This is under the heading of growing through pain, and there is nothing the matter with that because it does lead to growth. However, when you decide you would like to become a spiritual student consciously - everyone is an unconscious spiritual student - but when you decide you want to learn some techniques and take the bull by the horns, as they say, take charge of your own evolution, you begin to understand that you have alternative ways of dealing with such a situation.
Unfortunately, most who have aspired to this have thought the only alternative was to stuff down their frustrations and slap on a phony smile to try and get through it. This is not a bad way to go either. There are lessons in it and it does keep a lid on things, which is sometimes the best that can be hoped for.
For more advanced students you can deal with your own frustrations in a number of ways that do not involve dumping them on someone else, particularly a person who seems to be the source of your problems. There are therapeutic techniques that have been pioneered in alternative psychology over the last 50 years or so; you feel angry and so you punch a punching bag for a while and imagine that you are unleashing your aggressions on the person who is bothering you but you are really doing it on the punching bag with the intention of getting it out of your system and not doing psychic harm to the person. So, we are not speaking of the equivalent of punching pins in a voodoo doll.
There is a loving intent to release the old pent up energy from your body which also may have very little to do with the person who is triggering you. It may, in fact, go back to your child hood or even past lives, and the person’s offense may only be the most recent layer of frustration – a reasonably small portion of it.
Even more advanced still is to handle it in a kind of meditation where you relax and invite all of your pent up frustrations to come up in the environment of love that you are creating in your personal space. You may invite that frustration to tell you all its stories as if you were the therapist or loving parent listening to a child or a friend who just needed to unload. As you witness your own ‘bad experiences’ in a way that says “its alright now, I love you, go ahead and let this out”, you may not need to act out the aggression so physically.
However, sitting with them in meditation may make your body want to move in some way because these old energies are stuck in the body. Even if they are from a past life, if you are dealing with them now they become re-deposited in your body. So if your body wants to move, go ahead and move it in a safe way so that you don’t hurt yourself or your environment. You may want to hit something but you might just want to move in strange ways. It might look like you are having a mild seizure or something since your body is trying to release this old, crippling kind of energy. Often you may discover tears. Tears can be quite healing. Tears often accompany the realization of truth. That allows you to let go of something.
So now that you know that there are ways that you can heal your own frustration you will have less of a need to engage with the person who is being inappropriate and who is triggering your desire to be inappropriate. Obviously this is an excellent foundation for later forgiving, not only this person but all those who have contributed to your many layers of frustration.
Life on the physical plane is designed to be frustrating. If everything were smooth sailing all the time, if nothing got in your way, there would be no learning. Many people feel that there is more frustration than there needs to be and that is a valid opinion, but the level of collective frustration is a collective choice. For most of you, your society has chosen a high level of stress and complexity in order to accelerate learning, but that has also accelerated wounding. You could say that that gives you consciously spiritual folks more opportunities to practice your healing skills. So ultimately it is more useful.
Still, you can individually choose to remove yourself from some of the frustrations of your situation. You can chose to interact with fewer challenging people, and when you are no longer looking for people that you can get into a fight with so that you can let go of some of your excess frustrations, you will tend to have fewer combative people in your life. We doubt that you can eliminate them entirely but you probably can reduce them.
So, going back to the train of thought we were on earlier, you as the healer are in the presence of some difficult energy; maybe the person is dumping his or her frustrations on you, blaming you for them, and you are successfully now dealing with your own desire to defend yourself because you are enfolding your own reactions in the universal forces of love, truth and beauty. And, if you are not able to fully heal your frustration in the moment, you are confident that you will be able to do so when you get the chance to spend some time with them.
Meanwhile, you feel viscerally like you were hit in your gut because if the personal attack came out of the blue you may not have been ready for it; you may have not established a space of light that could repel it, and so it has taken you by surprise, and now you feel punched in the gut, as they say.
This is actually very easy to deal with if you have your wits about you. That is key because when you are taken by surprise you sometimes loose your wits, but if you can hold onto them the first thing you want to do as a healer is to establish a strong intention that your own pain is connecting with those universal forces and dissipating rapidly. Every mother instinctively knows how to do this when she comforts her squalling baby. It is a similar kind of approach. You just ‘be’ with it, be with the hurt part of yourself, and quickly it will recover, especially if you have been practicing this. And then, as a healer, you would look at the other person in the same way - with compassion.
This is not to say you should be in denial of the fact that this person upset you, was inappropriate or whatever, but you could also remind yourself that that person is hurting or would not have acted that way. Just being aware that the person might be having a bad day can help. You can afford to be generous in this regard when you already know you can take care of yourself; that you don’t have to be a victim to that destructive person. Even if there is some momentary sting and things are coming up for you, you know that the person can’t really hurt you long range, long term. We should say if you try to be generous when you do not have this confidence, when you are in the process of becoming a victim, it will be harder to convince yourself that you really can be generous, that the generosity will not be so unconditional. It is a little bit like someone saying ‘I forgive you but I still hate your guts’.
You can see in that kind of statement that it is quite common. That is not verbatim but in the spirit of how people approach relationships, that this is an improvement over the ‘I am going to get revenge’, but it is not as satisfying as being able to truly forgive, which is, in this instance, disconnecting from the personal issues and not making them your own, not carrying their attack with you for the rest of your life, nursing grudges and so forth.
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Shepherd is a professional Michael channel and author of The Journey of Your Soul--A Channel Explores Channeling and the Michael Teachings and Loving from Your Soul--Creating Powerful Relationships. He does channeling sessions and intuitive readings via telephone, mail, and e-mail.
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